This is the question I have:

Ever since I have discovered this LOA matter I have been in such an emotional roller coaster, sometimes full of hope sometimes full of frustration and sadness, specially when I think I see signs everywhere and the result is the opposite.

It's like I pay attention to everything around me to a point where nothing is natural anymore, and knowing I have to monitor my feelings and thoughts makes me feel like I'm fighting myself on a daily basis, and disappointment takes a whole different meaning, I get shattered for the smallest things because I feel like I failed when I had the right tool, or that I wasn't granted something when I did things like I was told to.

I have become this over conscious person aware of every darn detail and doubting myself even more because sometimes LOA won't work like I thought I was making it work. And I'm realizing back when I didn't know, I used it without paying attention to all these details and it worked, I was fine with feeling those very human feelings and little disappointments felt like what I wanted just wasn't meant to be.

I'm not a crier, but boy I have never cried of frustration, or misunderstanding (fighting with my family and friends telling me to get back to earth because I'm dreaming with all this LOA stuff), or self doubt because I can't seem to manifest everything when it is supposed to work for everything.

They say the ignorant lives a happier life than the savant.

So? Does Loa really makes things more simple?
Looking forward to your thoughts on this...

Lyly

Lyly, your life is what you make of it. There is plenty that is out of your control and you can either react or respond. Reacting, to me, is something negative, whereas responding is positive. If you, let's say, lose your job today and react by panicking and thinking it's the end of the world for you, then it probably will be. But if you respond "OK, I lost my job, but I am an intelligent woman with plenty of skills I will find another job in no time. And maybe it will be something much better. Maybe losing this one was a blessing in disguise." It's always up to you how you handle what happens. And if things aren't happening the way you want them to, you need to make them happen. 

Everyone wants similar things, but to different degrees. We all have these common goals like happiness, success, love, money, etc. But it is up to each individual to determine that degree.

I had the same problem that you do, and I still have it a little. When i discovered that what you felt and thought even subconsciously, I started to worry about it. No matter how many times I tries , my subconscious would always make me thinking negatively. Then I realized that I was always worrying about my subconscious, so I ignored it, and used my conscious only...at first you don't feel a big change , and it's annoying to change you're mood every time you notice that you're subconscious is "whining",but little by little, you're subconscious starts changing also.I've been  focusing in my dreams, always "throwing away" any feel of despair or defeat, and now I feel I can do it, to the extend that when I go to sleep I dream with the same goals I've been day dreaming all day.I still don't see any result but it's worth even for the simple feelings of strength , motivation ,determination and confidence. It also helps to shout to yourself (even if only mentally) you're objectives, it's like burning that desire in you're subconscious. The only bad feeling I still get is deep boredom, when I'm not aware of my own mind. And even that I'm trying to change by saying my goals to myself, and it echoes through my mind until the end of the tasks that keep my attention off my mind.
 

Tiago, I really like your reply here. You're right, we have to start somewhere and build our way up. At the beginning it's frustrating b/c we are new to this and trying to accomplish so much. But as we start doing something we'll gain more experience and have a better handle on everything. 

Thanks again. 

Thank you guys. I completely understand your point of views here, I have been working on LOA for the past 6 months with some successes.

What I am really talking about it's the hassle it represents emotionally, I feel like it made everything more complicated. When I didn't manage to get something I have to over analyze everything and it makes me feel worse, when I spend a day being happy and watching how I vibrate and yet a specific something I really wanted doesn't happen I don"t understand. And the more I try to learn and find things the more paradox I find in what each say actually works (the take action and cursed hows thing is a real tricky one).

And how do you differentiate a gut feeling with a wishful thinking, they both kinda feel the same but one is actually a real signal and the other is just an illusion.

As I said LOA should have been an answer, a key to everything but if I feel worn out emotionally and I feel like I'm struggling at this, then something is not right, and I was hoping someone could enlighten me.

Let me give you examples so you see what I mean:
-I need 3000 dollars fast, and actually manifest a tutoring job and the hours I work will make me gain exactly the amount I need, so I'm happy and thankful but then my student keeps canceling classes and at the end, I don't even make half of the amount I needed. or
-I intend to see this guy I like and intend to talk to him and to get to know him some more plus I'm dressed like I know he likes it, all day I act like I would if I were his lady and i'm excited and visualize and I'm all ready, but then my friend who's picking me is 2 hours late, we get there, I see the guy 5 seconds, dancing with another chick ( a former friend who s been hitting on him even though she knew I liked him, not worth getting into details) or even better I don't see him at all when I know it's a bar where he always goes.
- or again I file for this school I'm craving for, all the difficult papers to get I need show up easily, I'm accepted and as I'm about to go, the bank refuses my loan request and I can't go.

I won't make the list any longer because the goal is not to get contagious with negativity but there s obviously something awfully wrong here.
You see a door seems to open fully and while I want to walk in it shuts down on me. I don't believe in bad luck but there's a piece of the puzzle I must have misplaced... I am thankful , I visualize, I pray, I folllow my gut and even the messages I hear in my dreams...

Am I missing something?

 I hope someone who knows would come in and share to help U .i would also like to know  about it . Why is it so??? in the mean time i got this phrase from my pastor . hope this encourage u

our Only Battle Today Is The Fight To Remain At Rest

Therefore

 live let go life .Go With His Flow! therefore Let Go And Let God!

Lyly, I can only sympathise, and I'm _not_ new to this, I've known about the LOA for years, and know someone who has believed in it for over 40 years and he hasn't manifested anything that he has wanted and thinks he must be doing something wrong, it's sad to see people blaming themselves for something that before they found out about the LOA, they would not have been blaming themselves for.
I have wanted and needed a house for years, and have tried everything LOA-wise to manifest it. When I first heard about LOA, it was like a lightbulb moment and I thought all my worries were over and that the house was mine, I was so confident of this, but after so many years have gone past, you'd be a fool not to stop and wonder what went wrong. And like you, I have people who think this kind of thing is just mental illness talk and that anyone who believes in it is deluded, so I have learnt to keep quiet about anything LOA-related to most of the people I know.
I am currently reading Joe Vitale's book, The Key, which apparently contains information for why The Secret _doesn't_ work and what to do about it to make it work, but I read in it tonight, something about writing things down that you want to happen, as if they already had, but, I did all that years ago, and it hurts to even think of it now, cuz none of it came true, and writing stuff like that, if any of it were seen, would definitely get you labelled a looney, or a fantasist, which wouldn't matter if it worked, but sadly it never worked, so now I don't want to have to write anything down as just doing so reminds me of failure, and that won't help, so that writing method is not for me.
The conflicting information about LOA is the greatest bugbear for sure. In Joe Vitale's book he says to really feel the emotion of what you want, to fall in love with it, cuz that is the quickest thing to get what you want to manifest, but if that were true, then all the people who are in love with a specific person would not need to be on here asking about how to use the LOA to attract them because the LOA would be working to bring them that which they love, so I'm afraid that I've lost a lot of faith in Joe Vitale's book this evening, which the other night I thought was great.
Also in The Magic of Believing book, (can't remember author) it tells you to have an all-consuming obsessive desire for what you want, if you want to get the LOA working for you.
By contrast, I read in yet another LOA book that you should be completely detached from what you want, with no emotion about it whatsoever when you are visualising, cuz emotion pushes it further away, so, really, what on earth is one supposed to think? Or do? It all seems demoralising and all the conflicting advice doesn't exactly inspire much confidence in the process.

It's good to be positive, of course, and if nothing else, being a positive thinker should make you feel happier than being a negative thinker, but I know extremely negative people who are bitter and destructive, and yet they get what they want, and equally I know sweet natured and kind hearted people who also love and value themseves too, but sadly seem to get misfortune follow them around but they smile and try to cope with it, and I'm left puzzled by it all. And you're right, finding out about LOA seems like a dream come true, but after so long, when nothing has come to fruition, you'd have to be insane not to have the disappoinment set in.

So, as I say, sadly I can offer no answers or solutions, but just to let you know, you're not alone and you do have my sympathy. Many people are in the same boat and feel disillusioned, I've seen them come and go in this forum and sometimes maybe people are best just giving up on their dreams, cuz hoping for something that doesn't materialise, no matter how much you've lived the dream and acted as though it is, eventually becomes soul destroying with the amount of disillusionment that you start to feel. And then, still trying to keep on with it regardless, makes you feel worn out mentally and emotionally, and it shouldn't be like that. I think the reality is, is that there are no easy answers in life, but LOA makes you believe for a while that there are, and perhaps distracts you from the reality of living. I think it's good to still hold onto hope, but don't set your whole hopes on it and just get on with living and try to be as positive as possible but without setting yourself up for disappoinment by believing in something that could turn out to just let you down. Take each day as it comes and try to let the future take care of itself.

In a way it does make things more complicated, but this topic you bring up is what everyone that wants to increase their consciousness needs to experience to rise up from their "lower way" of functioning.  Yes, it does seem very consuming and in some ways it is, but if you really bring awareness to your feeling and thought life, it's the chance to deeply transform yourself and find deep peace and function better.   Right now, it's like you are untangling yourself of a lot of knots, and while it may seem better to live in ignorance, it's not really. 

For example, say we look at someone who is just a hedonist and parties and doesn't analyze his life at all, that person might be enjoying life for a while on a pleasure high, but eventually all the inner baggage that person has will limit them in many ways, sooner or later, there will be issues that will arise in that person, that I can promise you because everyone out there has inner blocks, and if they don't work on them, it all just lingers and brings you down.  Remember this, feelings buried alive, never die.  Just trying to ignore stuff wont make it disappear.

On the positive side though, with practice, it gets easier and easier to uncover stuff and eventually you come to a place where your emotional set point is one of Joy and appreciation and if something comes up, it isn't a huge deal because now you know how to deal with things pretty quickly.

This is the Great Work.  I totally get what you mean, it seems tedious, but avoiding it is not the answer.  The result of it is true Freedom.
 

Wow Brian, who just lightened up my day. I guess if it didn't feel a little hard, I wouldn't really be doing the right thing huh? Digging out the old stuff and changing the old habits is not an easy task so the fact that it's hard right now kinda means I'm on the roll :D

I'll keep that in mind, things burried alive, never die.. the goal is freedom and when Iose track I should remember what I'm aiming for.

Thank you Brian, it also feels good to see, it's a common feeling...
Your reply did make my day, heck! it made my week :D

Bless,
Love and Light
Lyly

I guess I'm like you

I wanted a car for my son, so he wouldn't have to catch cold and rain at bus stops as he has a lung condition

I got him a car almost without looking because my brother went to live abroad and couldn't take his car

Now 2 months after driving it everyday my son crashed his car into another

The other will be surely totaled, and I have to pay big money for my son's car repair

Now my son doesn't want to drive ever again, and the driver of the other car is mad at us because the money she's getting from insurance isn't enough to buy another car

What a big mess I'm into... how can I get out?